If you are a parent struggling with a son or daughter over body piercing or ear stretching, you are not alone. Body modification has exploded in popularity, especially with younger people who are seeing celebrities of all kinds sporting body piercings and tattoos. It is no longer a question of if you have a body piercing , but how many you have. Ear stretching has also caught on with boys and girls of all ages (i.e. the female heroine in Avatar) and can raise especially heated arguments. The concern for parents is this: if you don’t let them do what they want, are they going to do it themselves anyway? Many parents have refused a piercing only to come home to find a child has done it themselves, usually with improper and unsterilized items, such as paper clips, safety pins or nails.
Inevitably, unless you can physically be with them every moment – there is no way to stop them from self-piercing. Instead of refusing outright, many parents choose to take their kids to a professional body piercer, so they can fill out the proper forms and be there during the process. This insures that at least it is done properly and with your blessing, as well as make you part of the process. Another effective technique is to agree, but only after a certain age. This helps reduce the risk of your son or daughter self-piercing as you have given them permission at a future time (a ‘light’ at the end of the tunnel). Although as parents, we may never ‘get’ why our kids want these modifications, but we can at least try to stay a part of the decision-making process and make rational decisions instead of reactions.